Two weeks ago, I asked Martial Development readers to share their bullying and harassment stories. Here are the responses:
Of Brick Walls and Petty Tyrants by Karen Shanley
How I helped my daughter deal with a difficult teacher.
How to Deal with an Office Bully by The Career Counselor
…I really need to keep this job but I’m dreading going to work everyday because she is so mean. What should I do?
Stop Bullying Now! by Stacey Schifferdecker
Little boys chasing little girls on the playground. Middle-school girls making fun of another girl who just got braces. A teenager accidentally knocking another boy into his locker—every day. Are these incidents bullying or not? Where is the line between teasing and bullying?
Surviving (Tolerating, Accepting, and Eluding) Negative People, Places, and Situations by David B. Bohl
Negative people, places, and situations can have a detrimental effect on your life. Similarly to seemingly insurmountable workplace obstacles and situations, in the form of people and situations, there are no instant fixes for these sorts of problems in our private lives, either – but WE CAN fix them.
Who Let the Dogs Out by Female Therapy
I had a friend who was a serial bully. She was devious and manipulative and would intentionally seek the emotionally needy to work her magic on. She had a split personality that fooled even the most intelligent…
Assertiveness Training by TherapyDoc
Most of the time, if you’re assertive and not aggressive you’ll get what you want.
Bully for You by Monkeyboy Jack
I was bullied in school, as short, scrawny geeks tend to be.
I’ve volunteered a few more martial arts-related entries below:
The Application Of Traditional Martial Arts Practice And Theory To The Treatment Of Violent Adolescents by Stuart W. Twemlow and Frank C. Sacco
Adults are often skeptical about the use of martial arts as a therapeutic tool. The fear is that teaching “fighting” will increase violence. Also, it may be difficult for them to envision a sports instructor in the role of therapist. However, martial arts can be organized to provide desirable social outcomes, such as decreased conflict at home, increased academic achievement, and reductions in violent behavior.
Bullies by John Vesia, Martial Views
Underneath the veneer of bravado and arrogance that the bully exhibits lies fear. Fear of being stood-up to. Fear of being found out that (s)he is actually a coward.
Martial Arts: The Number One Way to Combat Bullying by Robert L. Jones
Often time, bullies don’t know how to manage their anger so they take it out on people they deem weaker than themselves. Many times, bullies are being, or have been, bullied at some point in their lives as well. Martial arts help solve these problems.
Bullying Forges Karate Champion, BBC News
A schoolboy who turned to karate in order to defend himself against bullies has won two gold medals in the world championships.
Thank you all for your participation. Feel free to add your own advice, experience or opinion in a comment below.