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The Other Secret

The full story of how Rhonda Byrne turned a positive thinking realization into “the greatest success story in the annals of viral marketing”-–to quote The American Spectator-–is only now emerging in court papers filed in the US and Australia, and from interviews with the participants. To Byrne, it’s the story of a small group of people bringing “joy to the world”; to some of those involved it’s a story of hypocrisy and ruthless double-dealing.

Like many of her public utterances, the message that Australia’s platinum-haired self-help guru Rhonda Byrne sent out last November to her millions of followers was a rhapsodic outpouring of goodwill. Thanksgiving Day was approaching in the United States, where Byrne now lives in a Californian celebrity enclave just up the road from Oprah Winfrey’s 17-hectare, neo-Georgian estate, and the creator of the New-Age blockbuster The Secret wanted to remind the world about the crucial importance of gratitude.

“Remember,” Byrne wrote, “if you are criticising, you are not being grateful. If you are blaming, you are not being grateful. If you are complaining, you are not being grateful.”

Those are worthy sentiments, but it was an odd time for Byrne to be expressing them because her lawyers had just sued two of the very people who were instrumental in launching her book and film The Secret to phenomenal success. Drew Heriot, the Australian director of the movie, and Dan Hollings, an Arizona internet consultant whose “viral marketing” helped propel Byrne to global fame via Oprah, had both been demanding that Byrne pay them a share of the estimated $US300 million revenue they claim she’d promised them. In the weeks leading up to Thanksgiving, Byrne’s lawyers had counter-attacked by launching legal actions against both men in jurisdictions far from their homes, a tactic one judge has since described as vexatious and harassing.

For a woman whose central message is the power of positivity, Byrne has a surprisingly long history of such bust-ups, stretching back to her days as a television producer in Melbourne. But those past disputes pale next to the legal storms swirling around The Secret, a New-Age marketing phenomenon the like of which has not been seen for decades. It’s a bunfight of cosmic proportions that has drawn into its orbit some of the best-known figures and most fundamental tenets of the global self-help industry…

Continued in The Weekend Australian Magazine.

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35 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Mr. Patterson // Aug 27, 2008

    The big Secret is that the secret is most likely bunk.

    http://abcnews.go.com/Nightline/Story?id=2975835&page=1

    If only I could think of something like this to get rich on. Then again, I can’t make money of off giving the terminally ill false hopes. I’m funny that way.

  • 2 Thomas // Sep 5, 2008

    I’ve gotta say, when I watched the Secret, I wasn’t all that impressed. This just gives me more reason to think she’s out for the money than any genuine desire to help people.

  • 3 Chris // Sep 6, 2008

    What a waste it is to lose one’s mind. Or not to have a mind is being very wasteful. How true that is.
    ~ Dan Quayle

    I hope her followers are paying attention. The real secret is, getting what you want may destroy you.

  • 4 Karate_and_Taiji_student // Sep 12, 2008

    Thanks a lot for the articles. Very interesting, indeed.

  • 5 Tashi // Sep 23, 2008

    I used to be a “believer” of the secret. Now, I am a practitioner of “the secret” without getting scared by the “superstition portion” of it. The new age slogan “you create your reality” does indeed have great merit without getting into the quantum-reality debate.

    Your mind has superb information processing capabilities. It can generalize, distort, delete any information it sees fit. If it doesn’t, we would suffer from information overload. Each of us create a map of reality inside our mind. You create your map of reality, and if you change the map, you change reality itself. Robert Anton Wilson called this “Reality Tunnel” in Prometheus Rising.

    Now, “reality tunnels” are positive feedback mechanisms. If you adopt a “positive” reality tunnel, you will behave in a very different way than if you adopt a “negative” reality tunnel. This is the “secret” within The Secret.

    Is the “law of attraction” true? We would never know. Everything is a perspective, a map of reality. When you believe something too much, you become dogmatic, and you lose track of the magic of living. If you’re happy, enjoying the “abundance” the universe provides you, life will treat you well.

    Oh ya, if you haven’t truly realized this yet: money doesn’t always bring happiness. Happiness is within you. If “law of attraction” is true, the Secret lady doesn’t is attracting what she’s looking for, “money”.

    PS. English is not my native language. Sorry if there’s grammar problems, i’m too lazy to check.

  • 6 Chris // Sep 23, 2008

    Tashi, Robert Anton Wilson is a cool cat. I believe that if he were still around, he would be speaking out against this, as I have.

    Have you heard the old saying, “the dose makes the poison”? Well, The Secret is an overdose, and the doctor is a quack.

  • 7 Newton // Dec 22, 2008

    How about the following novel thought: that the mentality created by “The Secret” largely contributed to the current economic crisis; and that an associated mentality existed in the 1920’s which led to the Great Depression.

    This is from a book titled THE SCOURGE OF OUR TIME: The Demise of Critical Thinking in the Age of “The Secret” written before the economic collapse which argued that the mentality associated with it is economically dangerous as it nurtures a virtual consumerist psychosis. It also points out how the entire project is a well conceived scam and that such scams were also very prevalent during the 1920’s. The $50 billion Madoff fraud also being a particular example of this greater psychosis.

    For more go to: http://www.newfort.co.za/scourgeindex.html (general);
    http://www.newfort.co.za/scourge.pdf (economy) and
    http://www.newfort.co.za/voodoo.pdf (science).

  • 8 Chris // Dec 22, 2008

    Newton,
    I read and enjoyed “The Scourge of our Time”. Personally, I would like “The Secret” to have all the respect it deserves–which is more than nothing, but less than it receives now.

    I see “The Secret” as a set of mismatched abstractions, compiled without reason or rigor for nakedly selfish ends. Taken point by point, its statements are sensible–I could defend them myself. Put together…well, suffice to say they were not put together properly, from my viewpoint.

    As for its classification, I might have chosen “Ponzi scheme”, but your “black magic” is apt.

  • 9 Newton // Dec 22, 2008

    Chris,
    Thanks for reading it.

    And you’re right, it does not deserve the attention it is getting—but yet it did end up as an all-time bestseller, and still selling strong.

    I merely used it to point out how these fraudsters operate–that is, by grossly distorting and omitting the facts. I personally think that this type of distortion is becoming an epidemic, but more alarming is that we are idly sitting by while fraudsters are operating with impunity — from the church to Wall Street to Washington – and is indicative of the underlying cause of the economic crisis.

  • 10 Chris // Dec 23, 2008

    In regards to the financial catastrophe that has only just begun, I do not regard inaction as the problem. The problem is that we as a society are complicit, and we will do almost anything–pay almost anything, to anyone–to avoid acknowledging that.

    We blamed the short-sellers, and lost. We paid to blame the banks, and lost again. Next, the Chinese?

    And I wonder: who but the guilty would buy an injunction to “think only positive thoughts”?

  • 11 Newton // Dec 24, 2008

    You’re absolutely right, we are collectively complicit and unless we change…

    But the problem with taking responsibility for one’s role in a ghastly manmade apparition of this magnitude, is that acknowledging one’s own complicity, and then to do the necessary painful work to affect the required change, is just too damn awfully negative to contemplate… and thus it is just better to blissfully remain in the dark, albeit that it is shrouded by false positivity.

    In my book, this is pure unadulterated cowardice.

    True positivity as Barbara Ehrenreich pointed out in The Pathologies of Hope, after all, is about “ac¬knowledging the lion in the tall grass, the tumour in the CAT scan”, and then to devise one’s actions accordingly.

    Another word for this is to be brave in the face of utter destitution.

    Perhaps Obama will bring some realism to your country, but it again appears – based on the mass hysteria I’ve witnessed – that the expectation is that he will wave a magic wand once he gets into office, and the nightmare will be over… Poor guy, Americans are already setting him up for failure by their expectations.

    Nevertheless he’s the only true hope we have at this time (even for me watching this unfold from the southernmost tip of Africa), and we may just as well hang on to any real hope we can find. That is, as long as it is backed up by a clear and cogent plan…

  • 12 Newton // Jan 17, 2009

    Chris, I’m honored by your entry in Steve Pavlina’s (black Magic) forum. The comments are interesting and very revealing about the “Psychosis” which I referred to in my book. What is most revealing is that vociferous punting of magic ((black or white), and that there appears to be a pervasive belief–as I indicated this being similar to the period before the great depression.
    Finally, there are two further links to consider. The first is a New York Daily News article titled The poison of positive thinking: How self-help culture helped create the credit crisis (http://www.nydailynews.com/opinions/2008/12/26/2008-12-26_the_poison_of_positive_thinking_how_self.html). Interesting, but I do think the author, Steve Salerno takes the self-help argument a little too far (at least in another book (Sham: How the Self—help Industry made America Helpless).
    The other is a great audio which clears all the associated issues (http://selfhelpfraud.com/uploads/Anti-Secret_Teleseminar.mp3).

  • 13 Mariana // Apr 19, 2009

    What about hard work? unforeseen circumstances? limited resources? If Bob sits on his sofa all day with a beer and starts wishing for champagne and a mansion, will it just appear? It’s an unbelievably rose tinted and fantastical message. But I suppose it is what most want to hear, hence it’s selling.
    The Secret = Rhonda is laughing all the way to the bank.
    On another note, I do think (on a realistic level) positive thinking does change our behaviour, and behaviour affects our interraction with others. But this is obvious!

  • 14 Matt // Jul 23, 2009

    Mariana, “wishing” has nothing to do with it, but from watching The Secret I expect a large percentage of people will think that is all there is to it. In reality that synchronistic flow that allows you to intuit the connections between you and your desires is a completely different state of conciousness than sitting on the sofa and wishing. I expect and extremely small percentage of people who watch The Secret will ever achieve it. So they’ll just end up wishing.

  • 15 Amina // Dec 7, 2009

    For the past 2 years i have being trying to think positive but always the opposite occur, nothing is really true

  • 16 Newton // Dec 7, 2009

    Amina, you made a very good point. Very often positive thinking has the exact opposite effect. For instance one of the greatest psychologists of our Time, Viktor Frankl, suggests that for some people, especially those who tend to be somewhat anxious in their nature, it actual helps to intend that negative things must happen to one, he calls it paradoxical intention. Anyways, I’ve just posted an article on my blog written in 2007 titled Think Negative!, warning about the effects of positive thinking, including a major economic meltdown, and that the war in Afghanistan had essentially been lost because of positive thinking—see http://open.salon.com/blog/newfort/2009/12/04/negative_thinking. Makes you think, doesn’t it? Anywasy, it’s not about negative thinking, but rather, Critical Thinking.

  • 17 Paul Nanouk // Dec 22, 2009

    It’s entirely simple to perceive that “The Secret” is nothing but a phenomenon of the Oprah effect. Ms. Bryne’s book and ultimate secret would have languished on the shelves without the first lady of day time TV. It is sad that so many, mainly women, allow Oprah to do their thinking for them without even critically reading the book from a standpoint of actual reality.

    Ms. Byrne has become the latest version of what was once called, “The Snake-oil Salesman,” and she is a superstar of her chosen profession. A simple Googling of her name will reveal that she has violated most of her own statements of the ramifications of “the Secret,” via statements, press releases, and now, lawsuits to prevent the sharing of her profits with those that helped her achieve this level of celebrity.

    In reality, there is no secret to life’s successes or failures other than what the most famous of innovators once said:

    ““Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” T.Edison

    Nothing magical about making it through life: its work, its hard work, and its demands persistence. Just thinking about what you want without a plan or action is simply “sitting by the dock of the bay…” watching life pass you by each day.

    Wake up, people, you are making Ms. Byrne’s life goals come true by buying her “re-packaged feel-good speech,” where as the money would probably be much better placed in a “solid 10 year performing” mutual fund and working to place more monies right after it.

    For once said by CJ Stoneman, “true-believers will never accept the fact the its not the emperor that is without clothes, but his subjects left naked and disillusioned.”

  • 18 Rafael Figueroa // Dec 28, 2009

    I hit rock bottom in my life and was thinking negative “all the time”. When I first watched The Secret, I thought it was too good to be true, however, I figured, even if this is not for real and it’s to good to be true, i wanted to give it my all and follow it. I mean, I was already at rock bottom, what harm can it do? Well, I not here writing this because I am promoting The Secret in any shape or form, but when I followed it, I was amazed to how my life started to get better and my dreams, “that In thought were only going to be dreams”, really started to happen. Coincidence to some people, but too many great things worked for me for me to believe that.

  • 19 Newton // Dec 28, 2009

    Rafael, I suppose different strokes for different folks, and I’m glad you found yourself in this way.

    I however think you are confusing positive thinking with being a positive productive human being. The Secret suggests we only need focus our attention on the positive – that is to think happy thoughts while focusing on our vision (in other words daydreaming) – and the universe would take care of the details for us. This is not being positive, but delusional.

    Being positive requires we face the full scope of what is required to achieve our goals, in particular focusing more the worst case scenario, and yet having the courage to continue despite the negative may happen, but secure in the knowledge that we have done the work to ensure a positive outcome. To still continue with a venture not having done so believing the universe will protect us is simply foolhardy.

    Professional stuntmen are a good example, the reason why they me alive and others not, is because they prepare themselves for the worst case scenario, many are even compulsive about the potential risk, and only once they are certain they fully understand it and made every precaution to avert it, will they continue.

    And how many people actually died from this statement in the book: You don’t have to fight to get rid of disease. Just the simple process of letting go of negative thoughts will allow your natural state of health to emerge within you. And your body will heal itself. Oprah actually had to issue a public warning on her show because of the number of people who stopped taking their cancer meds because The Secret would effortlessly cured them.

    But how many actually did not heed this call, and most likely died because of this?

    See, being positive is about enduring whatever our healing requires, and to make every effort needed to lift our limbs, even if it screams at us in agony, in order “to feed the children”. It’s not being positive to sit bang and send positive vibes to the universe that it may magically cure one. Indeed it’s the antithesis of it.

    And what about the dozens, who either became very ill or died at James Ray of The Secret’s sweat lodge—that is after having duped 60 of them of $10 000 for a five day sweat lodge retreat, that more than half a million dollars for less than a weeks work, and are now investigated for murder.

    See, the fact that you may have had a positive turnaround doesn’t change the fact that Byrne and her cohorts have raked hundreds of millions from one of the most elaborate scams ever devised, and are laughing all the way to the bank because of it.

    BTW: I trust you will stay positive regardless of what I had just written as positivity truly is a choice despite any circumstance which has or are yet to befall.

  • 20 Rafael // Dec 28, 2009

    Newton, I completely agree with you. They do specify on the dvd, that it’s based on “strong feelings” and not “wishful thinking” Yes, if your daydreaming of what you want and not having the “strong feelings of already accomplishing”, then “delusional” is the perfect word to use.

    They also state in the dvd that if people could die by not taking their medication, they should continue to do so, while they explore mind healing.

    It is common sense to “most people”, that if you’re feeling good and happy, you will attract more of it and miserable people will attract more misery.

    What I understand about The Secret is that if you focus on “the feelings” not so much “your wishes” but how you “feel” if they came true “even if it’s ridiculous” you will manifest “a possibility” or a “direction or action to take to help you get what you want” whether, it’s a connection from a friend, stranger, etc. and then act on it. Otherwise an opportunity could slip through your fingers.

    I am not trying to justify or negate your response in anyway, I am just stating that feeling good does work with the law of attraction.

  • 21 Newton // Dec 28, 2009

    Raphael, I also do not wish to negate your response as I recognize that there are many forces at play to achieving our goals, not least of which is a belief in our abilities.

    Our emotions however are about how we govern our life and are not necessarily about achieving our goals. An interesting coraaly which completely contradicts The Secret is that the most miserable people are in most cases the most financially successful. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and a high degree of perfectionism is probably the most important personality characteristic to becoming a billionaire than almost anything else.

    And what about the string of Hollywood deaths over the past year (Jackson, Ledger, Murphy)? In fact in all cases they overdosed on high levels of anti-anxiety medication, but also pain medication as well.

    And what about this from the book:

    The Law of Attraction is a law of nature. It is as impartial and impersonal as the law of gravity is. It is precise, and it is exact.
    Everything that surrounds you right now in your life, including the things you’re complaining about, you’ve attracted. Now I know at first blush that’s going to be something that you hate to hear. You’re going to immediately say, “I didn’t attract the car accident. I didn’t attract this particular client who gives me a hard time. I didn’t particularly attract the debt.” And I’m here to be a little bit in your face and to say, you did attract it.

    Since then Byrne intimated that those who died in the South East Asian Tsunami (all 230 thousand of them), must have died because they had attracted it, that based on the LoA, they must have been on the same frequency as the event. This is the most insensitive inhuman comment I’ve ever heard.

    Again, what works for your works for you, and that’s OK. I’m merely advancing the argument as many are now seeking remedy in “The Secret” to get out of the financial crisis, but it is the very last place they should turn to if they indeed are to even stand a remote chance of doing so.

  • 22 Chris // Dec 29, 2009

    I found it frustrating that when discussing The Secret, its proponents always wanted critics to ignore what it actually says, and focus on “what it really meant”–which was apparently reasonable, sound, and contradictory to the text. This response was merely the last in a tragic chain of fallacies, disappointing but unsurprising. Nobody wanted to stop the gravy train.

    But now the wheels have fallen off. And here is the funny part: Rhonda Byrne would probably say–from behind the secure gates of her California mansion–that this world got what it intended, attracted, and deserved.

  • 23 Newton // Dec 29, 2009

    Chris, I can’t agree with you more. All the best for 2010, and it certainly can only be a better one than the one we had.

  • 24 Gerry // Jul 4, 2010

    The Secret was the worst thing to happen to the Science of Getting Rich which was the book that supposedly changed Rhonda’s life. But, it was a book about personal responsibility, gratitude and above all taking action. The word attraction is not in the SOGR, but action is in it 53 time.

  • 25 IBMS // Jul 27, 2010

    I was going to write something in defence of Rhonda, but then I would be wasting my time against all the negative comments on here. Instead I will say this; Be happy in all that you do. Turn away from what you think is a rip-off or simply doesn’t please you. Don’t focus your energy on something that is clearly getting you all twisted and angry, but at the end of the day it’s clearly something that has been written to make you happy. Take it as you will, but either way you are right.

  • 26 Newton // Jul 29, 2010

    Interesting you brought up the topic of happiness as the pursuit of it is key to how con-artists like Joe Vitale and James Arthur Ray manipulate their following. Here’s an Extract from my manuscript titled Happiness Delirium if you are interested.

    You shall be free indeed when your days are not without a care nor your nights without a want and a grief. But rather when these things girdle your life and yet you rise above them naked and unbound. – [Kahlil Gibran]
    Wen arguing against the views expressed in The Secret one of the major obstacles is that it is incredibly difficult opposing a message that suggests one should focus exclusively on the positive.
    The primary objection of this work however is that this requirement is far too limited and misleading. And I’m certain, purposefully so. In fact merely arguing the obvious demerits as was done in this work, is seen as such a negative act. As such, despite that various aspects of the message were targeted, this analysis unavoidably had to be an act of also shooting the proverbial messenger instead of only the message.
    It is important to appreciate that by not seeing the negative clearly for what it may be, or potentially could be, is to be in denial of reality as it actually is. It rather is incumbent on us to face our reality squarely, whether positive or negative, but with the intention to turn our negative circumstances around that we may yet triumph despite any adversity.
    This in truth should be the only definition of what it means to be positive. And intrinsic in this is that we are often required to make incredibly painful choices (otherwise known as sacrifices) that may increase our state of discomfort in the immediate future. On the other hand a false sense of positivity may only delay a cataclysmic string of events which will inevitably snowball into a future disaster.
    My admittedly limited personal life experience suggests that true spiritual growth cannot be rushed. And when one is in the valley of one’s life it most often does not aid one’s growth by attempting to avoid or sugar coat the way things are at that time. In fact those circumstances must be seen for what they are; requiring we garner the inner strength to overcome life’s obstacles and setbacks that we may reach even higher psychological heights than before.
    While this may be a noble requirement, the problem with our time is that the pursuit of happiness – a freedom enshrined in the American constitution – is increasingly becoming the object of many people’s striving. It has become the destination so to speak.
    To cite a particular instance, I recently heard someone remark that a dear friend of hers was diagnosed with terminal cancer and that she only had a short while to live. However as per The Secret, she did not let this circumstance interfere with her current state of bliss. Instead of focusing on the impending loss of her friend, used the methods she learnt to turn her feelings of loss around by rather focusing on the beautiful memories she and her friend had shared. But also to send positive mental vibrations into the universe for her friend to be cured.
    Though as much as one may feel good in the moment in doing so, one nevertheless is living one’s life in denial of reality as it is presenting itself at that time.
    I say this because the appropriate response based on the medical diagnosis, should have been to accept the inevitability of the condition, and to mourn the impending loss. And certainly not to think or find methods to get oneself out of the painful reality of that circumstance. The reality predicament at the time requiring she identify on the deepest level with that loved one. Though to still find the courage from within to be strong for her and to do whatever was in her power to make those precious last moments as joyous as can be. But not for her own sake. It is to accept that then was not a happy time. And as such it was incumbent on her to put her own need for momentary happiness aside. Instead to fully avail herself deeply with somebody she was supposed to have had a profound kinship with.
    And after all, the good memories are not for now, but when her friend had passed on, and through which she would very much remain alive for as long as one was still alive to cherish them.
    Ultimately the pursuit of happiness should not be what our life’s journey is about. In fact the pursuit itself has become the very reason many Americans (in particular) tend to be unfulfilled though may present a happy façade to the world. It very much is analogous to searching for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow while the rainbow was the pot of gold all along.
    The following extract taken from Wellbeing, one of the Art of Living Series, titled Happiness in a Mad World by English writer/philosopher Mark Vernon PhD, provides a sense of the overall folly of merely focusing on the external object of our desire, and which we believe will be the cure to our existential ills.

    Psychologist Oliver James, author of Affluenza and now The Selfish Capitalist, believes that the madness does not just stem from Freud’s tension between the individual and civilisation, or from Eliot’s observation that we have to put on faces to meet faces, but from the fact that politics has gone profoundly wrong in the English-speaking world.
    We have been infected by affluenza, the notion that our most profound psychological needs – for security, intimacy, autonomy – can be met by things, decisions, actions that cannot possibly meet them. The sex addict is emblematic: they long for intimacy and seek it in promiscuity, the very action that prevents intimacy. James has assembled evidence to show that the people who suffer most from mental illness are those who suffer most from status anxiety, as Alain de Botton put it – the desire or pressure to be beautiful, famous, wealthy…
    Why should this result in poor mental health, that is unhappiness?
    Advertising tells us this by manufacturing desire and keeping images of how the rich live in front of us… It leads to massive debt – personal and corporate – and a fear-based career as you struggle to earn to pay the mortgage. It undermines intrinsic values… It is a bleak picture, one of massive collective neurosis… The implication is that we are missing the good life even as we think we are pursuing it…

    A similar sentiment is iterated by Frankl in the forward to Man’s Search for Meaning.

    Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person (or persons) other than oneself.

    Happiness must happen: you have to let it happen by not caring about it.
    The trick with happiness, therefore, is a very simple one: it is never to expect it, but to delight in it whenever it comes.
    Or put another way: if your life isn’t about being happy, you likely are already happy.
    I’m sure that, if the American founding fathers were to look back on the consequences of that clause, they probably would’ve realised the monumental error they had inadvertently made. Yet I don’t propose it be scrapped any time soon, but rather that it is incumbent on us to make the necessary mental shift that happiness may indeed ensue.

    By the way, if you think I’m personally am unhappy for having these views you can take a look at this.

  • 27 Gerry // Jul 30, 2010

    Newton,

    I will have to read your book. I actually wrote an article entitled the Secret was the Worst Thing to Happen to The Science of Getting Rich. The SOGR is actually enjoyed and found helpful. The word attraction is not mentioned one time in the SOGR, but the word Action is in there over 50 times. Yet, the Secret crowd thinks the SOGR the supposed inspiration for the Secret is a book about the LOA. I actually got banned from a SOGR forum which morphed into a LOA group. Thanks for posting your book.

  • 28 Newton // Aug 1, 2010

    Gerry, I concur, and had in fact commented to this effect on page 8 and 13. Byrne never intended to name Wattles as her inspiration as it was meant to be the deity “Abraham” channel by Esther Hicks. However Hicks withdrew from the project, perhaps because she smelt a rat or did not want to share in the spoils, so the SoGR was a conveniently substituted as the supposed inspiration behind her con. Incidentally Wattles was quoted 3 times in the book and Joe Vitale of Hypnotic Marketing fame was quoted more than 250 times—this is because the book itself is Hypnotic Marketing.

    BTW, how can one get hold of your article?

  • 29 Gerry // Aug 1, 2010

    Newton. The articles are on my blogs. http://www.simple-time-management.com or http://www.desireoutcomes.com. Thanks.

  • 30 Steph Scott // Aug 23, 2010

    I don’t know, but The Secret has really inspired me towards a more positive view in life. I guess an advice I would give is to know the story behind The Secret first before giving any assumptions. If you want to know more about The Secret, please do visit:

    http://www.thestorybehindthesecret.com/step1.html

    Hope this will clear all your doubts..

    Thanks

  • 31 Newton // Aug 24, 2010

    I’m sorry Steph, I’m not will to give my contact details to get more spin on Byrne when I do know so much about her already. She can claim anything she wants to in order to market her ideas, it doesn’t make it a good philosophy, and because she got rich because of marketing/selling The Emperor’s New Clothes (and it literally is), doesn’t mean you will. Consider these emails I received to know just how dangerous this philosophy is–To Hell and Back.

    To put it quite simply, fall for it at your own peril, because, once you’re in it, you’re stuck and you’ll convince yourself how wonderful it is, even though your world may be crumbling apart from under you. Even some of the dying victims of James Ray of “The Secret” (the second biggest contributor) defended him, even though he just idly stood by watched his victims die. The bottom line is that it’s brainwashing, and you take it on at your own psychological and material peril… It’s definitely not a formula for success or getting rich at all (particularly in an economic crisis), but indeed, it’s the very opposite…

  • 32 May // Aug 27, 2010

    All the people who don’t believe are those who fail and now is criticizing.

    Go ahead. I can say I found my fiancé, healed my knees, my back and my vision. I live in a big house, 4 years after watching and these are only my first and big goals, now besides that A LOT HAS happened.

    I can only feel sorry for those who didn’t achieve. Poor you. Poor negative you

  • 33 Newton // Aug 28, 2010

    May, those lines seems as if it is a direct recitation from the book. Must we believe these things just because you say it’s so, there a millions of people on the making all sorts of claims to sell their wares or their philosophies. And if it is so that these things indeed did happen, good for you, and count your blessings, but believe me, a healthy cynicism is the only way to navigate this murky new world in.
    Let me share some emails from two people who responded to my book.

    I’m writing first and foremost to thank you for your enlightening manuscript on The Secret. My brother has been smoking a lot of marijuana, and believes in The Secret completely, and is now following a creep Bashar from a documentary called “Tuned in”. The point is that he now has serious psychosis. He was arrested for marijuana possession, after telling the cops where his marijuana was because he thought he could positively think his way out of it, and has been throwing out the notices about his court dates ever since. He has dropped out of college now, and I’m not sure what to do.

    My awakening to the crazy world of self help and recovery from it’s vice like grip occurred after a quite fantastical and unique experience. One thing I have learned is that you cannot download anyone else’s ‘system’ or ‘process’ and make it work for you. I think you need to pick through each person’s life experiences for the wool to weave your own tapestry. Certainly with the money, time, energy and hopes invested in other people’s ego creations I could have weaved the Bayeux and then some!!!
    What I can say though is that in a bid to understand my abusive childhood and how different I appeared to be from my family I embarked upon a 20 year quest to understand who and what I was. Yes, I fell, hook, line and sinker for the self help and personal development game.
    More recently, over the last 10 years I have stuffed myself silly with Law of Attraction (LoA) type teachings that mainly block out anything negative or ‘not of the light’ and thus, have given my power away more or less to anyone with a cheering claim or nice smile. Then, even worse I started creating courses and taught them to other unsuspecting fools. Cringe worthy stuff called how to be happy and living the attitude of gratitude…(spewing into a bucket).
    Yes, I was a spiritual prostitute except that I paid to turn tricks. God, put like that it is embarrassing and hysterical in equal measure.
    Then, a catastrophe of epic proportions that turned all of the LOA stuff on it’s head, inside out and doing somersaults occurred!!!!
    It would fill a book and then some and perhaps one day I will come across someone who wants to take it on. Certainly NBC Dateline wanted to make a 2 hour documentary around events that led from my catastrophe….
    Well, your wondering what it was, aren’t you? Mmmmmm how to encapsulate the magnitude in a few paragraphs…(deep breath).
    Essentially I met a psychopath (probably the physical manifestation of all the repressed and ignored negativity and blocked out critical thinking from the last 10 ‘positive’ years!!!).
    I sunk every penny into a series of businesses with him, got into a hellish personal relationship with him that involved every kind of abuse and threats etc, helplessly watched him systematically destroy several other people and then once I had withdrawn from him and the businesses despite what was on the line (everything material I had) – saw him flee the UK leaving a quagmire of 103 serious problems that escalated into near bankruptcy, over 50 threatened court actions, insurance issues, tremendous weight gain and the utter desecration of everything I believed in. I was massively affected – physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, financially and spiritually.
    Essentially ‘I’ ceased to exist. I became a recluse, stayed away from everyone and everything except what I could not possibly avoid, stopped going out, answering the phone, showering, getting dressed. The only respite from the fireball of pain and stress engulfing EVERY facet of my life was the safety net of suicide. I knew I could kill myself. I longed for absolute annihilation! I didn’t just think it, I investigated the subject, formed a plan and came seconds away from carrying it out several times – stopped only by my love for my cats and who would care for them?
    Without a doubt the worst aspect of all of the above was the belief I had created and attracted it. I spent nearly a year on a wild goose chase torturing myself further by trying to work out why and how a lifetime of positive thoughts and actions had created a monster and a monstrous situation that took 2 years hard time to resolve and was so permanently life changing…
    There wasn’t any answers other than the LoA was either horse shit or used wrongly could be disastrous.
    I stumbled upon your book which helped as it showed all the guru’s in meltdowns of their own, and I started looking at the shadow stuff that was all around me. For 8 months I delighted in oozing out every shred of anger and negative energy that had long been encased in the basement of my psyche until one day I realised that negative energy was not better or worse than it’s opposite – just different and that both are required for a reasonably happy existence. Duh…
    I knew I was in recovery when my critical thinking skills began to creak into action again and I started reading novels (!!!). I have emerged back out into the sunlight but armed with self reliance that life goes up and down and around and around and ‘this too shall pass…’
    Having been kicked out of society I feel quite content to potter around doing not very much. I take each moment as it comes. I delight in the joy that flows out of simple things but at the same time when I feel enraged or angry or pissed off I beat up my pouf fee and enjoy that just as much as all the smiling.
    I am content to not know who/what is behind everything and to surrender to whatever pulled me through. Forgiveness has and is helping me with all that happened – even the near murderous hatred I feel towards lawyers (laughing).
    Footnote: My former business partner Michael Lane went on to murder a woman in a particularly gruesome way and then tried to run over and kill a transsexual in the dead woman’s car. He is currently in Clark County Detention Centre, Vegas (where else?!) awaiting trial and possible death penalty next year.
    Mmmmm not sure any of this would help anyone. Their may be a few ears of corn if you pick through… (raucous giggles).
    Hope all in your world is dark and light!!!!

    First author’s response
    Thank you for sending me this, it is one of the most unfortunate side effects of believing in new age beliefs, that we want to spread it to others, and rather than helping them are actually spreading a virus. I’m reminded of the recent film Inception, where they say that the most contagious agent is an idea, it acts like a virus, and once it is planted it is very hard to get rid of. We live in an age of many crazy ideas manifested in tea partiers, global warming deniers, conspiracies of many kind and the like. I truly hope that critical thinking survives.
    To update you on my brother. He still has not recanted, so to speak, and unfortunately he has withdrawn all the money from his trust fund, around 80,000 dollars, which is supposed to be used for his college education, and now has the resources to live on his own. Eventually I hope he will realize, and this person has, that he is delusional, but it’s a terrible, terrible waste. At the end of the day however, we can only live by example, and be there for those who realize their mistakes. You are doing important work. Thanks again.

  • 34 Gerry // Aug 28, 2010

    May,

    Did you ever think that there may be no correlation to success and the LOA, I bet if you looked back, you were in fact doing different things and getting different results. It was the actions you took.

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