Self defense isn’t about empowerment, personal gain, winning, revenge or teaching those who have hurt you a lesson. Those are the motivations of an attacker. Self-defense is about effectively ending an attack, quickly and with minimum damage to yourself. If you have those other motivations, then you aren’t defending yourself, you’re fighting. And if you are fighting, you are just as guilty of misconduct as your so-called attacker, because you are both operating from the same selfish motives.
Marc “Animal” MacYoung is an internationally renowned personal safety instructor, and the author of more than a dozen books and videos on the subject of self-defense, including The Professional’s Guide to Ending Violence Quickly.