Comments on: Breaking The Drama Triangle

By: On McDojos and Mob Justice

On McDojos and Mob Justice — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 06:43:50 +0000

[...] no better equipped to search for superior alternatives. Here there is a thin line between exposing victims in the name of justice, and creating them for sport (and [...]

By: Kristine

Kristine — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 22:29:42 +0000

To acknowledge our own behavior is the beginning of recovery, awareness, healing and growth. I have placed myself as the victim and have also been the abuser. I have allowed my control to be taken from me and then blame the other in my relationships. I won’t acknolwledge when the other has blamed me wrongfully, however I look at myself and make honest assessements now and focus on what “I” need to change.

By: Because1974

Because1974 — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:11:53 +0000

I often times play the rescue roll. It gets my mind of my own problems and needs, however I feel that I am dis empowering, the ones I rescue, the ones I rescue really want to be rescued. That’s all they know they refuse to learn even though I try to get them to help themselves they play dumb and or have no motivation. I do like helping but not to the point where I neglect my studies and needs.

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By: Khawar

Khawar — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 15:47:23 +0000

From personal expereince I can say that the most difficult thing to do is for the victim to acknlowledge that they are actually palying the role of the victim (or abuser). And unless they acknowledge it, they will never be able to break free from the situation and are doomed to continue in the self-destructive pattern they see as ‘normal’.

By: Missy

Missy — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 21:03:58 +0000

The victim needs to recognise their own needs and start becoming proactive in taking care of their own problems. Counselling would be a good place to start.

By: Lynette

Lynette — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 10:57:36 +0000

Through constant criticism I have lost confidence and becom the victim. I hate this feeling and need to get out of the triangle but cannot find the path

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 02:58:28 +0000

Megan, the answers to your questions can be found in any good martial arts school--though I do not recommend martial arts as a substitute for therapy where that is needed. We have discussed bullying here before. And if you browse around this site, you will find a few instances where hostile commenters have attempted to make a victim out of me, and failed. Learn what you can from those examples.

By: megan

megan — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 01:39:03 +0000

how? How do you not be a victim? how do you “take the center”? it doesn’t make sense. you have said the same thing that everyone else says but there are no answers on how to do it. what do you think about how to control the victim inside. what if your a vitim of ignorance and dont understand what your doing to make people say you act like a victim then what do you do? go to a theripist? What?

By: Investing in Loss, Investing in Ego

Investing in Loss, Investing in Ego — Wed, 28 May 2008 06:38:22 +0000

[...] Ironically, the penchant for submission reveals a distaste for risk, which is a fundamental characteristic of investment. Giving up guarantees the outcome, simultaneously protecting the illusion of the tragic victim. [...]

By: James Randi’s Million Dollar Hustle

James Randi’s Million Dollar Hustle — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 21:59:08 +0000

[...] are more likely to strengthen the Conmen’s position than to weaken it, by recasting them as victims in need of rescue—a ineffective approach for an organization dedicated to scientific [...]